No one wants to be a rebound ...

Last week, I have had a semi-serious conversation with one of my guy friend. He was asking my opinion in regards with his present relationship condition (with his ex-girlfriend & the girl he's liking). So this is how his story goes;

She talks to him regularly, exchanges text messages and lend her ears to him. She's being sweet and she shows him extra attention. He is now liking her. But his ex-girlfriend suddenly appears to his life again. She seems to be interested in him again. Maybe her intention is real, or maybe she's just now claiming what she once hold because someone else is interested (whatever her intention is, it's not our business here).

And here is his stated problem:

He likes her but his world was shaken after his ex's sudden appearance. He wants her to be his girl but he is now experiencing unstable emotion. He wanted to ask her so soon because he is afraid she might leave him in the next few months if it takes him too long to ask her.

And I told him: "Don't ask her to be your girlfriend. Not until you have fully unloaded your baggage from the past relationship. It's obvious that she likes you too and you don't have to be afraid of losing her just because you took it too long to ask her. If you ask her now, it will be risky for both of you considering that you are emotionally unstable at this moment, you might lose her forever. Don't ruin your present relationship with her just because of your fears. Remember: No one wants to be a rebound. Good thing comes to those who wait."